Love Is

Two weeks ago my parents celebrated their 35th wedding anniversary. Thats amazing. Thats a lifetime. I look up to them for many reasons. One for the love and passion they share and secondly for always looking at everything in a positive way.

When I asked my mother how they both did it she would say “It’s all about love, all about communication, all about working together as a team”. She also mentioned it was not all plain sailing. Sometimes along the ways they would not see eye to eye, yet as they grew together they accepted each others petit flaws. In my opinion a lasting relationship is a life you want to share with your partner. This means enjoying all life’s experiences together during the good and the not so good times.

I also believe that before you have a relationship with someone you have to be happy primarily with yourself. Why is this ? Well, if you think about it, if you are not happy within and go into a relationship then you give up and give in to your partners life. Some people live for there partners, yet have no life of there own. It is very important to be an individual that appreciates your own life. Why again? I call this one regrets.

You could suddenly find yourself in relationship and although on the outside you seem happy, yet, deep inside you know this is not the case. My relationship with my wife works wonders. We understand that we are both individuals who have there own likes and dislikes and although like my parents if we do not see eye to eye in some cases, we respect each other and we communicate.

It is very important to have your own hobbies too. A hobby is a pass time that should be kept for your own satisfaction. A “Me, myself and I “time that you dedicate to yourself. I am not saying having a relationship but only do things by yourself. NO!! Have a relationship, enjoy each others company and also enjoy your own company. Meet up with your friends on a regular basis. This keeps your relationship healthy. I know when I am with my friends I always send a few messages to my wife. It makes me appreciate her more.

If you are in a relationship, and are having difficulties, communicate to each other. What is bothering you ? Why are we both acting like this ? DO we have a situation ? Sometimes it takes less then a few seconds to get to understand each other. Remember why you are in relationship the first place. I’ll tell you. It’s because when you looked at each other, eye to eye, it sent shivers down your spine, now that's amore ;)

It’s funny when I hear crew saying “Life was much better when I was single” and other s saying “I wish I had a partner”. BINGO. Firstly, Be happy with yourselves. If you are then, single life is great. A partner is a bonus. Then you can say “My single life is great I do what I want and I am happy” or “My relationship is great, I am so happy we love and respect each other”.

I do hope you get inspired to find love or work on it in this message, I do hope you are happy within yourselves primarily.
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thanks and have a great day,
Claude Camilleri


Written by Claude Camilleri,
Master NLP Practitioner, Malta
founder of Successlodge
www.successlodge.com