| Maria Stivala, Using Neuro Linguistic Programing | Ever since I discovered NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), life started to make sense. Now, for everything I am experiencing there seems to be an explanation. I understand that whatever I am experiencing in my life, I have been attracted there - like a magnet. I have drawn in these things by virtue of the images that I hold in my mind- my thoughts, says Maria Stivala. People often talk about time management, but they don't think about 'mental' management. We underestimate the role that thoughts play in our lives. We put aside thoughts that express our feelings to our loved ones, and instead waste our energy worrying about what is not working in the relationship. Whatever it is we think about, we are bound to attract it into our life, and love is no exception. If we are focusing on how bad our partner is making us feel and how empty our relationship is, guess what? That is what we are going to get more of. The moment we start measuring what we are not getting, we step out of love and into fear, anger and resentment. That's right, we all work with this one infinite power. We abide with one universal law; it is the Law of Attraction. By shifting negative thoughts, we can literally transform our relationship into a happier one. You will start attracting good things into your love life once you programme your mind to focus on the things you want in your relationship rather than what you do not want. For instance, “I want my partner to comprehend what my dreams and passions are” rather than, “my partner doesn't get me, he/she does not care what my passions are”. Without exception, the law of attraction works every time. It is important that we keep reminding ourselves of how lucky we are. Look around and cherish the love. Look at your partner in the eye and smile, remind yourself that your soul mate is right next to you. Remind each other of what brought you two together and ultimately, what is keeping you together. NLP puts people in the right frame of mind in order to translate negativity into thoughts of gratitude and positivity. So what is NLP anyway? Neuro Linguistic Programming is an attitude, a methodology, and a technology that teaches people how to improve their quality of life. It is an educational tool that teaches us how to communicate more effectively within ourselves and with others. It is a structure of how we think, and how we experience the world. Richard Bandler (the co-creator of NLP) sums up this exercise as the “ Falling More in Love” Pattern in his most recent book Get the life you want: 1. Close your eyes and think of your loved one. 2. Remember the first time that you fell in love with them. Imagine it like it was yesterday. See what you saw, hear what you heard and feel what you felt at that very moment. Spin those feelings inside your body. 3.Now, think of anything that bothers you about your partner. Make a mental image, as if looking through your eyes but seeing only them in the picture. 4.Immediately bring up all the memories of times where you loved being with them and step into those images, but this time, you are seeing yourself with your partner and experiencing what you saw and feeling what you felt at that time. 5.Run through all these wonderful experiences and amplify the feeling of love and spin it throughout your body. 6.Now open your eyes and look at your loved one. Notice yourself feeling like you did the first time you fell for them. Take the opportunity to rekindle the magic this Valentine's day. Give the best gift of all, the gift of love and passion. After all, it really is the thought that counts! |
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