All my life I have had a fear of heights. Every time I find myself at a high altitude looking down, my heart starts pumping twice its usual rate and I feel uneasy, out of my comfort zone.The irony of all this is I fly for a living.
Since life coaching involves working on goals, one of mine was certainly to overcome this fear, I had to move on. After reading and doing some research I found out this trigger for heights had to come from somewhere.
I thought about it for a while and then I remembered. When I was a kid, probably around the age between 8-10, I climbed a big tree with my friend. Thinking I was as agile as a monkey in his natural surroundings I swung from branch to branch just like my friend did. I was loving this, until to my disappointment a branch gave in and suddenly I was on my way to hell. Thankfully another two branches slowed my impact on ground zero. This event led to a visit to hospital and I still remember vividly the pain I had at the time.
So here it was, everything that happens in your childhood could create triggers and I found mine. Something had to be done.
Only a week ago, my maltese friend Clint, swapped his flight on mine. We were heading to Houston Texas. Amazing.
We had made a few plans for the forty eight hour lay over. The choice was either Nasa, WWF, NBA, Baseball... Then another friend of mine Adrian Grech recommended we go to Six Flags, In Fiesta, San Antonio, three hours from Houston.
Six Flags is notorious around the world as having the best roller costers in the world. What a great opportunity to LET GO of my fear. What a great opportunity to FEEL FREE again.
I felt ready for the new challenge that lay ahead. In my head I had already beaten this obstacle, then I came face to face with reality. Sometimes we focus on the end result and then when we are facing our obstacles, Mr I cannot do it appears. In our minds, he goes "Chicken you cannot do it, impossible, you hate heights, who are you kidding"....
I looked at my friend courageously and put on a brave face and waited for my turn !!! Suddenly I found myself strapped in, No Way out !! Here I was, someone afraid of heights, going on a insane roller coster. I turned to my friend, and panic erupted "Mate cant do it, cant do it".
On top of the edge, the roller coster let free and before I knew it I was turning upside down, round and around....
The feeling was no pleasant, I was so scared instead of crying I laughed so much, I created instant wrinkles.
I taught the first ride was the last one and I would create a great excuse not to continue. Something inside me was saying "Go on brother, it ain't so bad, you CAN DO IT..."
I went on the second, same feeling.. An uncomfortable one.
This is not working at all.....
However something different happened on the third one, I felt confident, truly, deep inside I was enjoying the battle within myself.
Clint could not believe how my focus changed the third time running. I was now showing off, I put both my hands in the air. This symbolic gesture meant freedom in my eyes. In my head I was saying to Mr I cannot "Eat my dust", "Kiss my backside"..
After Superman and Goliath (trust me) my fear was over.
We all have our little battles and Fears to conquer. Some seem meaningless in other peoples eyes. Of course, they do not understand how hard it is on us.
They feel confident - We do not
They can do it - We cannot
And the list goes on and on
Do not be fooled, everyone has that INNER STRENGTH, we all have it, we need to GET IT OUT and USE IT.
You have the strength !!
You have the power!!
Do not fear!!
GO FOR IT.
Sometimes we read on newspapers about regular people who put themselves in dangerous situations to help others.
Usually when they talk about their experience they tell us " Something came over me, I had this inner strength"
I can tell you, when the chance came to overturn my own obstacle I was weary. When I was actually just about to drop into the unknown I had butterflies. When I conquered my fear, I FELT LIKE A KING. It was not bad after all. I actually did not want to stop.
If their is something you need to really do and you know it, just do it, try it. The worst case scenario you will find yourself back at square one. The best scenario you will discover your true potential. I am not telling you to jump out of a plane to seek the adrenaline rush. All I ask is that you TRY.
No Pain, No Gain.
I loved writing this message, I hope you got inspired to kiss your fears goodbye. Be courageous, Go FOR IT!!
If you have any feedback or suggestions I would love to hear from you, I am only a message away.
Keep Smiling and best of all enjoy life,
Written by Claude Camilleri,
Master NLP Practitioner, Malta
founder of Successlodge
www.successlodge.com
Since life coaching involves working on goals, one of mine was certainly to overcome this fear, I had to move on. After reading and doing some research I found out this trigger for heights had to come from somewhere.
I thought about it for a while and then I remembered. When I was a kid, probably around the age between 8-10, I climbed a big tree with my friend. Thinking I was as agile as a monkey in his natural surroundings I swung from branch to branch just like my friend did. I was loving this, until to my disappointment a branch gave in and suddenly I was on my way to hell. Thankfully another two branches slowed my impact on ground zero. This event led to a visit to hospital and I still remember vividly the pain I had at the time.
So here it was, everything that happens in your childhood could create triggers and I found mine. Something had to be done.
Only a week ago, my maltese friend Clint, swapped his flight on mine. We were heading to Houston Texas. Amazing.
We had made a few plans for the forty eight hour lay over. The choice was either Nasa, WWF, NBA, Baseball... Then another friend of mine Adrian Grech recommended we go to Six Flags, In Fiesta, San Antonio, three hours from Houston.
Six Flags is notorious around the world as having the best roller costers in the world. What a great opportunity to LET GO of my fear. What a great opportunity to FEEL FREE again.
I felt ready for the new challenge that lay ahead. In my head I had already beaten this obstacle, then I came face to face with reality. Sometimes we focus on the end result and then when we are facing our obstacles, Mr I cannot do it appears. In our minds, he goes "Chicken you cannot do it, impossible, you hate heights, who are you kidding"....
I looked at my friend courageously and put on a brave face and waited for my turn !!! Suddenly I found myself strapped in, No Way out !! Here I was, someone afraid of heights, going on a insane roller coster. I turned to my friend, and panic erupted "Mate cant do it, cant do it".
On top of the edge, the roller coster let free and before I knew it I was turning upside down, round and around....
The feeling was no pleasant, I was so scared instead of crying I laughed so much, I created instant wrinkles.
I taught the first ride was the last one and I would create a great excuse not to continue. Something inside me was saying "Go on brother, it ain't so bad, you CAN DO IT..."
I went on the second, same feeling.. An uncomfortable one.
This is not working at all.....
However something different happened on the third one, I felt confident, truly, deep inside I was enjoying the battle within myself.
Clint could not believe how my focus changed the third time running. I was now showing off, I put both my hands in the air. This symbolic gesture meant freedom in my eyes. In my head I was saying to Mr I cannot "Eat my dust", "Kiss my backside"..
After Superman and Goliath (trust me) my fear was over.
We all have our little battles and Fears to conquer. Some seem meaningless in other peoples eyes. Of course, they do not understand how hard it is on us.
They feel confident - We do not
They can do it - We cannot
And the list goes on and on
Do not be fooled, everyone has that INNER STRENGTH, we all have it, we need to GET IT OUT and USE IT.
You have the strength !!
You have the power!!
Do not fear!!
GO FOR IT.
Sometimes we read on newspapers about regular people who put themselves in dangerous situations to help others.
Usually when they talk about their experience they tell us " Something came over me, I had this inner strength"
I can tell you, when the chance came to overturn my own obstacle I was weary. When I was actually just about to drop into the unknown I had butterflies. When I conquered my fear, I FELT LIKE A KING. It was not bad after all. I actually did not want to stop.
If their is something you need to really do and you know it, just do it, try it. The worst case scenario you will find yourself back at square one. The best scenario you will discover your true potential. I am not telling you to jump out of a plane to seek the adrenaline rush. All I ask is that you TRY.
No Pain, No Gain.
I loved writing this message, I hope you got inspired to kiss your fears goodbye. Be courageous, Go FOR IT!!
If you have any feedback or suggestions I would love to hear from you, I am only a message away.
Keep Smiling and best of all enjoy life,
Written by Claude Camilleri,
Master NLP Practitioner, Malta
founder of Successlodge
www.successlodge.com
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