Self Confidence

Some of us build up confidence through acknowledgment from others. Some of us build self confidence from the voice within.
Sometimes we do not get that acknowledgment from others and sometimes we do not build up self confidence from within.

So how can we become confident more often ? Do we need to get acknowledgment from others ? or Can we simply reprogram the way we use our inner voices.

During my NLP course I had to think of a previous time when I was really confident. During the exercise I told my teacher, where, when and how I build that confidence.

Once the exercise was over I knew how my mind worked. I knew what sparked the confidence I had. I have now reprogramed my mind to become confident all the time.

The way we look, the way we speak to ourselves, the way we approach things, or the way others perceive us, can be barriers to our confidence, but they can also be confident triggers.

I remember I went to a party nine years ago. I wore a wig. I looked like ANdy Warhol. This new look gave me a Persona that I carried throughout the night. I was different. If I was confident or not it did not matter. What did matter was that Reprograming my mind for that one night made me someone else. I am not telling you to become someone else, rather to become the confident person you can be.

There are people who use plastic surgery to build this confidence. Some of these people still feel they lack confidence even after surgery. Why ?

They have changed on the outside, however, they have not changed on the inside.

So what if we put an invisible wig or mask and changed our internal dialogue to Mr/Mrs Confidence . How would things change ?

You will see difference. You will see change. You see, when motivational speakers, politicians, singers and even comedians come on stage, they psych themselves up, until they are SUPER CONFIDENT. Some put their invisible confident masks on, and others talk positively within.

The result is. They become Confident. Then they perform.

We are who we are and we can make positive change. We all have the power to talk positively to ourselves. If we train our mind to do so every day, our subconscious will eventually believe it, and confidence will happen.

Try motivating yourself every day. You could do this in front of the mirror or simply find a quiet corner and build up your internal dialogue. You might visualize an experience you once had and use it as an anchor to confidence, or you could change that inner voice and replace it with what you want to hear.

I am confident you can try this out, I am confident you will see change. We can all have doubts, yet we can all try to be confident. Trying is better than not trying.

Be confident in whatever you do and remember failure is only feedback, nothing else.

I remember seeing Cameron Diaz on TV during some awards. As she walked on the red carpet her high heel broke and she nearly made it to the floor. Rather than shying it out or crying, she got up, picked her heel and had a small laugh. She probably used her self confidence dialogue to get up and walk the walk. Now thats confidence (Remember, she was being watched by millions of people)

Thats the way to do it, get up, do not worry, build your confidence today.

I do hope you have got INSPIREd,
I do hope you feel confident to TRY,
If you have any suggestions, topics or feedback you would like to give me,
feel free to message me,

Keep Well
Be strong ;)
Claude


Written by Claude Camilleri,
Master NLP Practitioner, Malta
founder of Successlodge
www.successlodge.com